Blogs

James and I have been married for almost a decade and a half – and if we’re being completely honest

It has not been easy…

There were seasons when we looked at other marriages and wondered:

🤔 What are they doing that we aren’t?

🤔 Why does marriage seem to work for them?

🤔 Why do we keep having the same struggles?

🤔 Why can we love each other so dearly and still hurt each other so deeply?

For years, we carried the question:

Looking at my kids, I see reflections of myself, and sometimes, I see echoes of the mistakes I’m trying so hard to avoid. Yet, despite my best intentions, I know I’m falling short in some ways…

There is a season in my life that felt desperate. I felt like I had done it all and the emotional turmoil I felt was in was not moving even an inch. I had gone for a few therapy sessions, talked to my mentors, read a couple of good books and blogs, caught up on several TedX Talks and even tried some affirmations and self care routines… Nothing was budging.

Here is a story a client I journeyed with three years ago shared with me, to summarize her journey of healing from deep hurts that her mother had caused her, and how they were influencing her motherhood negatively.

Looking back, I am certain that it’s not my fully booked schedules, brand visibility, or spotless house that I will regret missing out on. It will be the impatient dinners… the rushed bedtimes… the ‘not right now’ dismissals… Yes, I catch myself very often prioritizing the urgent over precious priorities, the fleeting over forever moments.